Who's Really In Charge?

Hey there, friends and welcome back to becoming a boss where we take some time each week to talk about how to make the world a better place to work. your host, Megan. And today I'm back with. Hello, everyone. people are getting more and more engaged with our stories. And one of the things I've heard a lot is I'm not above. Excuse me. I'm not a boss of anything. I just will. You, our boss. That's my opinion. Of course your boss. But like, The audacity. I know that's my idea. Anyway, but yes, over and over. That's what I'm hearing. So. Mm. Hmm. Tell the people, your boss of many things. You're the boss of your household boss of the kids. Boss little laundry. Boss of the kitchen, kitchen. Pause. The wellbeing of everyone, you know, basically that lives in your house. And, you know, women define the tude of the home. Yes. Many times. Yes. You're a check. You're probably determining the mood. Slash tude. Yes. Of your house. So you're the boss of that. We are the. Thermostat. Because the thermostat sets the temperature, the thermometer just measures. Exactly. So we are thermostats, not thermometers. Yes. Very good. Okay. And the, what we're going to talk about today is what you definitely are. Is the Boston yourself. Ooh. I love that. And that is the most important thing we're bossing. I got really, if we're going to be honest, five tips, five tips, give. 1 2, 3, 4, 5. And just to be cute, they all start with B. And these are five tips to boss yourself. Yeah. Or to be a better boss of yourself? Yes. Okay. I love it. Be a better boss to yourself because the better boss that you are to yourself, the better boss that you are to everyone else that we're in charge of. Okay. Are you ready? I'm ready. Oh, no, no, no, no, no. Beginnings. Ooh, how you start your day. What is your morning routine? What are you doing when you first wake up? What are you feeding your brain with? Yes. This has been a real struggle for me lately. I don't know. Why do tell. Well, not that long ago, I didn't have my notifications on for anything. I mean anything. Okay. if you texted me, I would know, but other than that, It was just dormant. On the phone. Yeah. And you were just going about life without even one year ago or when you're in a half or whatever. Remember, I don't even care if you texted me, I'm just like, mm. I'll get to it later. This is true. I am witness. And by the way, I am so happy. Thank you that this is not a thing anymore. I have to say something about that. So my friend, Chelsea. she's a very old friend of mine and she has told me that She's known for not texting back. And so I did my little confessional with her. I was like, listen. I used to be like, you. And I never texted anybody back. Not because they didn't love him just because I was busy now. Because that's why she's not doing it too. She's just busy doing things. Which is fine. But, I told her, I was like, this is my confession. I'm a changed person. Join me. Yes. And. I get being busy. But does anything make you feel better to be in relation with others in the busy-ness? I was purposely not being in relationship with others. Right? Exactly. But I wasn't, I think that's what it's about. Partly doing it. I wasn't making an overt choice. I wasn't saying, oh, Hey, I don't want to be in relationship with people. You weren't saying that? No, it was not saying that. I was just. It wasn't a priority though. It couldn't have been a priority. Definitely not a priority. The opposite of a priority. Right. Right because I have, you know, ABC. I already have to take care of, you know, husband job. Children or whatever. And I was just like, that's enough for me. I don't need to have any more responsibilities. That's why I don't have a dog. Right. Well, more than one there's separate storm dog. I'm just saying. I have enough going on. I don't need any more. Right. And then. But then you changed something changed. Michelle. She yelled at me. Okay. She yelled at me. I'm so thankful. I have to think things over and I see her. Thanks, Michelle. Table. She was, I mean, it was very, I just met. I never know I had to thank her for that. Oh, yeah. Turning a leaf. She didn't say text people back. She said, You need women in your life, around you. And I was like, no, I don't. And she was like, yes, you do. You know how she is. Yeah. I know how she is. And I'm like 99. And she just went on and. And told you why she forced me. Yeah. She forced me into it and I was like, okay, well, I'll just see. And then I kind of started to dig in to realize why I don't have women in my life. Well, I tried that before and actually it didn't work. No fired back. Yeah. Actually I don't need any money to treat me that way. Thanks. I'm good. Yeah. And. So I always just kind of put people at a distance, not really knowing why I was doing that. But, for years I wondered for the record. Is it me am. Am I, the problem. I don't think I'm the problem. You. Me. I was the problem. I thought it was me. I'm so glad I didn't give up though. Oh, my gosh, I feel so bad. So the story is, is that it's better. The story. That's better, but we'll have a little confession time. Okay. I think, you know this story, but when I was young, I had a friend. I trusted her and I had a young child. I don't know if I should tell the story actually on air. Somebody might go to jail. Nope. Okay. It was just not a good story to say, somebody betrayed your trust in a great way. And they put you and your child potentially. Great danger and that is not acceptable. And it made you never. We may, we, we might've had just like a overreaction to the thing and we're like, no, no, no. We're going to go over here now. Yeah, trust people. Yes all the way on the other side. And so that's what happened. And I was there young when that happened. And so now you took a. The corrective action you knew to take in the moment, do everything 110%. And so if the thing that I'm doing is not trusting people. I'm not trusting people. A hundred and tat all. Yes. Yes, yes. Yes. Anyway. But we became friends on accident. Right because you lived in Florida at the time when we met, you were still living in Florida. Yes. So, I don't know how many times that you texted me and. Yeah. I mean, I would respond back way later. Yes. Yeah. It's a thing. I'm so sorry. It's okay. It wasn't, you know, you know, now I know you should know all the. Now I know. And it was meant to be, and it happened just the way it was supposed to, and we're friends and, you know, I'm kind of thinking maybe there's other people out there that are listening that think, oh, maybe so-and-so is not texting me back because of me. Yes. Maybe it's because of them, maybe it took us. Maybe it's because they have trauma. No, well, that's something I'm learning half the time. Maybe more than half the time. It's not about us. It's not. We're projecting that stuff on people. People aren't thinking about us there. They've moved on. They're there doing their life and we're thinking, yeah, they're doing X, Y, and Z. As a personal attack, right. And half the time I'm realizing it's not, they're thinking about themselves about themselves and what they have going on. Yes. And they're probably thinking about themselves, thinking about other people that are not thinking about. It's like, uh, A cycle. It's a cycle. So beginnings. Oh yes, dear God. we're doing beginnings because what does your day start like and what are you setting yourself off? To really. What are, what is your starting point? And so the reason that I have been struggling with this lately is because I didn't have any notifications on before and now all of them are on and my phone has kind of. It's very busy and I don't really know how to handle it. this morning, literally this morning, I was like, let me just text Wallace. Cause you're going to come over. I'm like, let me just text walls to let her know. Whatever, like one quick thing. And that was all I picked up my phone to do. slippery slope. 30 minutes later. I did nothing on my phone. I was, I don't want to what I ended up Googling. And so my time was stolen from me. Because I allowed. All right. And then take a step back. Beginning beginnings. How do you begin your day? Yes, here's how I'm supposed to begin my day. not on the phone. That is not where I'm supposed to begin my day. Wake up, get some coffee. Read the Bible. Maybe you pray, maybe meditate. Maybe you make your bed. What's her name suggests and making your bed as a part of the, a good morning routine, because it's complete for. With the day and it makes you kind of feel better, maybe gives you a little boost of, you know, whatever that happy juices. Ooh, 15 minute walk. Yeah, that's really good. three different people this week I've heard. Say about a 15 minute walk. Now, listen, I'm not going to do a 15 minute walk in the morning. I just don't know if I can do it. It's freezing cold. I'm not gonna do it first thing in the morning. And by the way, when I go walk, I'm not going to walk 15 minutes. Not that I've bundled up. I'm going to give it. Oh, I can get. Yeah. I'm going to give it all. I got, I mean, yeah, at. One type of four layers on to go out in 29 degrees. I'm going to walk into my legs or fall and then I'll come home. Yes. Yes. So there's that. But, yeah. how are you starting to your day? Give yourself some time. Take vitamins. You take vitamins. I take vitamins in the morning. I have a reminder because I was really, really bad at. Vitamins, one of those things when I'm like, I don't really know if this is doing anything for me. Right. You don't see like an immediate, you know, right. so I was always very skeptical. Um, but I started to be. consistent. I have a reminder on my phone now. That half the time. I don't even need them, but that's how I get to the vitamins, have the reminderAnd now I got in the habit and by the way, Guess what. Consistency has done. I now finally see that the vitamin is working. Oh, because you're doing it regularly. Doing it regularly and consistently all of a sudden, boom, my nails are growing all of a sudden, like, yeah, I just, do you want to tell the people the secret about your nails and your because it's winter and people's skin? Yes. Very dry in here. Everything I'm taking biotin. It's just simple. It's biotin. 10,000, whatever. Yeah. Mcg, whatever it is. Big boy. Yes, the good one. actually I was getting my eyebrows done and the lady actually said, I really believe in biotin. I really, really met. So little things like biotin. Consistently also, you mentioned winter. very simple. This is very cheap easy coconut oil. You were saying a coconut oil is a few books. And oh my gosh, I put it on my eyebrows, the recommendation of the eyebrow lady. Um, and my eyebrows. This, I don't know about anybody else. Really good. This part of my eyes gets really dry, especially in the winter. Oh, yeah. Yeah. She's pointing around her eyebrows. Sorry. And yeah, so coconut oil. It's so simple. It is cheap and it is so good for us. I like to start my day. So I, I listened to this psychiatrist. on Instagram, I think his name is Dr. Ammann. I don't want to get it wrong, but anyway, He says when we wake up, which we've heard other smart people say this when we wake up, our brain is In this state to absorb. Things You know, Just fresh. Woken up it's pliable. Thank you for that word. It's pliable. So. He suggests that as soon as we wake up. To your point, instead of going to the phone and getting into the chaos of the world, we start setting intentions for our day. now for me as a Christian intentions, look like praying to God and offering my day to God and God used me through this day and helped me accomplish my goals, whatever they may be. to some people, it may just be telling themselves affirmations like today will be a good day. I will be positive today. I will. Whatever you want to accomplish it. And I do believe that. When you declare that as soon as you get up. I mean, it's certainly not going to hurt, you know, It's bound to help you. Kind of see the day as you go through it. Would that declaration that you made to yourself? or, you know, in my case, I know I'm, prayed up and sent my only prayer, but it really does. It feels special when I wake up and I I'm intentional about dedicating my day. Um, to God and just my goal isn't to, just to be positive, to be good, to be a light. It's hard to then get out of bed and have a bad day. I mean, things can happen, but I do believe that when you start with that, Just that intention. Well, here's your other option. If you're not going to do that, then you're just going to wake up and let the day take you exactly. And that's what I don't want to do. Exactly. Also what happened to me this morning? So then you have to do all this work to get back on track and blah, blah, blah, which I did, but I I'm noticing this is a problem for me. And also I don't really like social media that much, so it's not even, it shouldn't be a big deal for me. And it's really not a big deal for me, but I, um, It's like when you're tired. I don't know, like you're tired. And you don't want to make decisions, so you just float through. Yes. I don't know what that is. I'm sure there's a name for that anyway. So especially all beginnings, but especially in the morning, how you're beginning your day. This is the first B word is beginning beginnings. We. We really need to begin our day with. Whatever it is. You don't have to do what we're saying. No, but you send your intent. Yeah, don't let other people. Sweep you away, right? Or just a day. Don't let the day have you, it's your data hat. It's your day take charge. Yup. Oh, this guy was cussing me out. Excuse me. Was the podcast. And he was like, I can't say what he said, but he was literally cussing me out. He's like, you think you're in special? And I was like, this is what I sound like in my head to myself. Oh, wow. Oh, no. I can't wake up to that, but, you know, Choose your thing, wake up to it. All right. So number two is boundaries. Mm. I know this is gonna, some people are clicking off right now, but I'm going to say it anyways. How do you protect yourself from the crazy? So we could even go backwards and say, how do you protect yourself from all that fuzz that's in your phone? Put a face down. Yup. Leave it in your room. Yep. Walk away or have a boundary that says. Until this time or until I have accomplished. X Y and Z, I will not go scroll for no reason. Correct. Right. So I think people are struggling with boundaries, with their phone. For sure. I think people are struggling with boundaries with other people. Oh, that's real. So I used to have this, I don't know. Two jobs ago or so. I had a boss who emailed called Texas. So did the client email call texts? No boundaries. All night long. And I'm telling you this, because I didn't realize that that's not normal. Huh. Because when you're a young professional, how do you know. Right. And plus you just want to do all the things we're overachievers. So we just want to do all the things and of. Yeah, and win and succeed in and accomplish everything. Impress the bosses and. I can get it done to be that person. Earn trust. And so, I didn't know. I didn't know that that was not okay. And also in order to have a boundary, you have to know your boundary, which is a whole other thing, because your boundaries are not the same as mine. Correct? Right. Nor should we be expected to all have the same boundaries, right. We're different. But how do you discover them? You have to be really intentional about discovering where your boundaries lie in different relationships. At work right. with your phone with things that may cause you trouble. I'm prone to certain things in life. I'm not prone to alcoholism. Let me tell you why I don't like alcohol that much. I just don't like it. There's never going to be a time when I'm confused. About my life because of alcohol. Right. I just don't like it. Right. But there's other things that I could get swallowed up in. Right. And so do I need to set boundaries with alcohol? No, cause it's not going to be a problem for me. Right. But you have to know that about. Yeah. What the thing is I realized that would take talk. I had to have a boundary. Socially, like Instagram was never a thing. Facebook, never thing. Um, Snapchat, never thing. those things were never the thing for me. Oh yeah. But then Tik TOK came about, that's really interesting actually. And I, oh my gosh, during the pandemic and. Soon thereafter. I was spending it's easy to go. And. And the joy that it was giving me and the distraction that it was providing, it was something I can get hooked on. Do your point? Yeah. Alcohol is not going to do it for me. It's like those things. But this tic-tac thing. Just watching the people and just go. And the more you watch, the more nos you. So the more it gives you things that you want to watch. Right. And it's also primarily it's funny things, right? Yeah. It's funny. I mean, it can, it can be dark, but it's funny again, it feeds you what you like. Oh, that's the beauty of it, right? That's the beauty and the danger of it. It feeds you, what you look like if you squirreled really fast through something, chances are, you're not going to see it again, but if you spend 30 seconds on this, you're going to see it again. And once you spend two minutes on it, you're going to see it again and again, and again, again. And then more things that are like that. And so for me though, it's recipes. Yeah. yeah. Everything about recipes, anything about travel, anything? And so I could just bend or just like funny things about funny people I like, and I could just spend hours. So I, once I realized that I was spending. Literally hours. Wow. I'm like, I need to get my life. You're not alone though. I'm sure. I know also mine's not tech talk, but Pitt Pinterest. Interest is a good one. Painters is a good one. Exactly. So, you know what I did though? Cause here's the thing. Um, this is, this is a little bit of a, a thing for me. Tell me. I hear a lot of technology. Is evil and technology is taking over our lives and technologies, not making people social and technology. Dah. But, you know, I love about technology. You can shut it off. And our thoughts are so smart. Yeah. I don't know if you know this. Well, I'm sure you do. You can you. You can go, you have ownership of this thing of the phone. And all your devices and there is a timer that you can put for yourself on different apps. Oh, to shut it off when you've had too much. Yes, you can say to you and you get to decide how long is too long, so that's your boundary. So my boundary, I went on there and I said, okay, I need 45 minutes of Tik TOK. That tape. And that is like for the whole entire day. Combined actually Tik TOK, Instagram, Facebook. I'm going to consume no more than 45 minutes a day of this. Combined. And I get a little notification you're five minutes away from your timer. so, you know, And then when the 45 minutes, and obviously, you know, we have ownership, you can extend the thing if you want to, but I believe, you know, that's my boundary, my boundaries, 45 minutes. Right. So. So I stayed within that. And that's that? Yeah. So like, how about that part of technology? I mean, that's pretty amazing. Yes, it is. But people probably don't. I don't know if people don't know that or don't use that feature or For me. I am not just paying enough attention to my own self. Right. That's why it's good because I didn't know, 45 minutes was going by. Yeah. Right. I didn't put the thing told me. And before that. When I realized how fast the thing was like, oh, you're almost at 45 minutes. That's when it really dawned on me. Just how long I was spending on it before. Yeah. Because it felt like, and now it's, you know, not that I've been doing. For awhile, it. You know, Pinterest is so good that I didn't put a timer on Pinterest. But again, Pinterest, is that a thing for me? Pinterest is like, All right. You know, I love it, but it's not going to be the thing that. That takes my day away. And I also scroll Pinterest on purpose in order to wind down. Yes. So, because I'm looking at. designs mostly. I love that. That's pretty. So know your boundaries. They're going to be different for everyone. Yes. Realized what they are realize those things that are draining you or. But you see are affecting you and not a positive way. And set those boundaries. And the only way to do that is to pay attention to how you're feeling. Yes. Which brings me to my next, which is besties. Another B. So number three is besties because you should surround yourself with people who are good for you. You gotta have your people. So if you spend time with Wallace and you feel good about yourself, then that's a person that you should. Yes. You spending time with. Like agreed. However, if you are spending time with Joe. And you leave, Joe, and you were feeling psychotic. Probably Joe is not good for you. Not the person. So surround yourself with people who are good for you, who challenge you, who are better than you in some area, at least one area so that they can help you to grow and you can help them to grow. Right. but also there are a lot of let's face it. We're all walking around with our own trauma. And. Some of us are dealing with that better than others, but what you can't do is allow yourself to be sucked into somebody else's psycho, right? You got your own cycle to deal with. So you really, you know, let's. Right. Okay. So the people that you surround yourself with that's number three. Bestie besties. Number four is the brain training. Oof. This is deep. Not too much. It's just what are you learning? Yeah. What are you listening to? So if you're, for example, if you're watching TechTalk. For an hour per day. Is that your source of learning? Ooh. Because probably it's more entertainment than yes. And actual learning. There are people on there who teach? And I have learned a ton. I follow Mel Robbins and Tik TOK. For example. So you can get to see a great two minute clip of her sharing. Something really, really insightful. Mel Robbins is a podcast lady who Wallace actually told me about. She. Yeah, she's so great. Been really helpful. She actually mentioned the making your bed thing in the morning. Yeah. And I didn't realize when she said that I kind of realized, yeah, I can do kind of make, I kind of feel better when I make my bed. Yeah. It didn't know. It is really good. I don't make the bed, but Steve makes the bed. That's his thing. The bed is made. That's the part that I feel I don't care who makes it. Yeah. And it does feel really nice. so brain training. Learn learn. About it doesn't matter what you want to learn about because you should cultivate your own self interests and, be excited about learning. If you like to learn new recipes and try new recipes. Then go down that rabbit hole, right? It's my jam. If you want to learn about, I study a lot about leadership and I read a lot of books about leadership. I listened to a lot podcasts because I'm interested now in the help people. Yes. Also psychology. I, these are my areas that I just love to study and learn about because I think people are so infinitely interesting. Yes. And, I want to be helpful. Yeah. I want to be helpful to people just in my life. when you learn something, test and approve it. So for example, when you learn something, you don't just be like, oh, okay. That's all cars are blue. If somebody tells you all cars are blue and you feel like that makes sense. Then go and test it. And see if it is actually true. Yes. Test it for your own self tests and approve. Yes. I'm learning Italian. Oh, I know it's so exciting. And what do you know then the other day, my son and I were watching a movie. And this will be happened to take place in Italy. And even though it was majority in English, they did speak Italian and I understood. That's so exciting. I would look at my son. I just understood what. Again, you know, not super long things, but I was able to pick up on words and sentences and stuff and it made me so happy. See, that's what I'm talking about. So brain training, it doesn't matter what. You're learning about it's good, but here's,there are a couple of things. First of all, it builds your confidence. Because you start out, you don't know. Right. And then now, you know, Ben Yuna. So you're like, oh, I can learn things. And so it builds confidence in yourself. And also it helps you to get comfortable with that uncomfortable feeling of, I don't know what I'm doing. Yes. And here's why I think this is so critical. Throughout your life. Things are going to change. And they're going to continue to change. And I know this is not a newsflash. It's not a newsflash to anyone who can hear my voice right now. We know that the world changes life changes. but yet we are so uncomfortable with it. And I feel like if we purposefully invite the change by learning. Then you kind of get used to being, just a little uncomfortable. Not knowing which then again, builds your confidence. So then the next time something happens in your life that is uncomfortable. You're like, you know what now? Uncomfortable and unknown. Before you've done. Yeah, that's really good. What kind of build you up inside. That's really good. Please. I think it's healthy for our brain in general, to learn things, to keep. Testing its capacity to keep testing the boundaries of the brain to keep. Yeah. Test your memory to test your. cognitive function. I think it's. Healthy for us in general for our mental health in general. From memory retention. Exactly it is like exercise. So I think learning is. Knowledge is power. And like my mom always said, nobody can take away from you. Anything you learned. Like that's yours. That's yours to keep. Nobody can take that away. And that's true. Knowledge is power. The more that, you know, the more power that you have, not that you're trying to be walking around with power, but I'm saying. How long you wield it for good. Yeah. And there's now, Again, back to technology. There's so many free courses you can take online. That helps you to learn. Things from gardening to being a barista, to being a project manager, to being a, whatever. You can learn. I mean, I'm learning Italian for free on my phone. That's ridiculous. About his, but again, let's focus on that. When we talk about technology, I'm a technology defender. I'm sorry. But yes, there's so many courses. I'm a defender to. Because you're in control, you are in control. Facebook is in making you talk to the person you shouldn't be talking to. You are doing that. You don't have to leave that comment. No, you don't. Or reach out to that person from high school. Oh, my God. There's a reason. Oh, wow. Too much, too far, too far. All right. Number five. this is the last one. I had a hard time making this a B. Okay. Cause they're all BS. Yes. Bullseye bullseye. Okay. How do you lead yourself? Well, I want to impose that you have goals for how you want your life to be. Yes. So what do you envision your perfect life to be? Do you want to be a lot of people don't know that the answer to that. Well, I don't either. Exactly. I mean, to be honest, I've been spending a lot of time in the past few months, same trying to dig that out. What do I want? Right. And. I mean I could share, but I don't think the people really care to hear, but here's the thing. It's going to be different for you though. But think about it. I spent some time in it and take note of the things that really do give you joy. Do you like the beach? Start simple. Do you like the beach or do you like the mountains? Right? Do you, are you one of those super complex people? And. Both. Oh. Like me. Yes, I both. I'm saying. Think about it. What do you love to do? Where do you want to be? And then that should be your, if that's your goal, then take that, break it down into little goals. And then, you know what to focus on throughout the year or the month or. The the week of the day, whatever. Exactly. But you have to start somewhere. And it doesn't have to be a big fat dream. But just start with a little dream. Yep. I want to be a person who learns every day. Yes. If that's your goal, then maybe you do a five minute motivational thing. Maybe you do a 20 minute podcast. Every week. Maybe you do. Whatever it is. Just pick a little thing. A little thing. Hey, you know what a really good book is? We, I think we've talked about atomic habits before. So atomic habits by James clear. And he goes into the details of how your brain works and how you create habits and blah, blah, blah. And it's a really, really good book if you are trying to make some of these changes, but basically he's postulating that. teeny tiny little change can change the trajectory of your future. by a pretty bag. Merging. That's a really good book to read. And also the one that waltz and I are both reading right now is designed your life. Deciding your life designing, designing. Yes, we love it. We love it so much. Because. So it's to Harvard professor, guys. Yes. I don't know. So they're kind of. challenging us to take a minute and sit in what it is that gives us joy. And that's where we're at right now. I think we're in chapter three or four ish. And that's been really great because I don't know about you, but do you have time to sit around? Think about what you want because no. Assigned for that. Life was in the time for that. No pun intended. And if you're waking up in the morning and letting the phones sweep you away, then you're not being in charge and not, you know how I imagine a lot of us are kind of acting right now a hundred percent, so take charge One thing at a time, I think at a time. All right. So here's my challenge for you today. What's her challenge. To pick something, pick something, one thing. One. One thing and commit to it. Whatever it is. That's good. That's the end. That's what it is. Yeah. If you want to set a little tiny goal, if you want to do a five minute routine in your life, if you want to. Commit to listening to a podcast. Every old you could commit to listening to this line. Right. I'm not challenging you. Yes. You could. be intentional about who you're surrounding yourself with. And maybe identify where you need to set a boundary. Yes. Please think about if someone is repeatedly hurting you. I'm not saying they're doing it on purpose because probably they're not, but you have to set a boundary, right. To protect your own self. Right. Or maybe it's something in your morning routine. You want to fix something in your morning routine? Just one little thing. One little, just do one little thing. Okay. That's it. We're done. That's great. Okay. That's it for today, friends. And thanks for hanging out with us today. And Hey, would you do me a favor? Leave us a comment wherever you're listening from. What are you enjoying most about the show and what do you want to hear more about? You could also share a story or call us at (864) 619-1683. Ooh, one more thing. 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